Sunday, February 14, 2010
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Friday, February 12, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Monday, February 8, 2010
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Friday, February 5, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Monday, February 1, 2010
Sunday, January 31, 2010
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Friday, January 29, 2010
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Monday, January 25, 2010
Sunday, January 24, 2010
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So we are going to try something new. We are going to try to do a photo of the day with a quick little blurb of what we are doing at that time. So here is the 1st installment, shopping at Costco. :-)
Friday, January 15, 2010
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Friday, December 18, 2009
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Friday, December 11, 2009
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Friday, November 20, 2009
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
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Roran laughs! This is a real laugh vs. the "ha ha " he did for me a couple weeks ago. Yeah!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Thursday, October 22, 2009
I hope this stage passes quick
God damn it sucks when your kid doesn't like you...
It is really hard to be a dad sometimes. You can't actually be the one that feeds him. You are the one that has to go back to work, so you only get to see your baby when he is asleep in the morning (and being snapped at to not wake him up so mom can still sleep after I leave) and in the evening after spending close to 10hrs away. So that means that he is nice and tired and easily fussy when you get home. Since he spends the majority of time with mom, you don't have a strong connection with him so when he wants to relax, it is rarely with you.
This has been my past month. What a blast...I love this part. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade the little mini-me for anything in the world, but I really can't wait to get past this stage.
Tonight is a perfect example of what we are going through right now. Jessica is doing a Xfit class from 7:30pm to 8:30pm 3 days a week. That means that I get him for about 90 mins a week where it is just me and him. Sounds great right? I get to tell him all the stories that mom doesn't want me to, we talk about going to college, what it means to be a man...all the fun dad stuff right?
WRONG
Jessica leaves usually as he starts to cry (don't blame her). It usually takes me 15-20mins to get him calmed down so that he can have his nap. Once that happens, about 20-30mins later he wakes up. I go in, put the Binky back in his mouth, make funny faces and we start talking again. This lasts about 10mins. Then the REAL crying starts. He is hungry. So I get the bottle that we have all ready to go and try to feed him. Which then turns into a 45min battle of trying to get him to eat (it has been 2-3hrs since his last meal) to get him to eat 4 oz. FOUR OUNCES. Usually (when mom is feeding him), this takes about 25mins. But when dad is doing it, it takes 45mins and he is literally screaming the entire time. Screaming like I'm waiting for the neighbors to call the cops screaming.
So the moral of the story is what dads get is about 3-4hrs before its bath and bed time. Yes, I get to spend 3-4hrs a day with my child...no wonder he barely remembers who I am. And everyone tells me that its hard for the mom to go back to work. Do they have any idea what a dad goes through? I had to go back to work after about 2 weeks, and then leave EVERY morning knowing that it will be a battle to get him to remember who I am when I get home.
WTF...I'm the dad, so its easier for me? I don't care as much? America is kind of messed up that way. I think that moms and dads should get the same time off w/o having to worry about their jobs or what is going to happen. Because I'll tell you and everyone else who thinks it's 'easier' for men, go to hell. If you care about your child, it isn't easy and people need to recognize that.
In reality, I'm pretty confident that Roran remembers me and that he isn't upset because it is me that is trying to feed him a bottle vs. Jess. But it's still hard.
But hey, it's all part of being a dad right? I hope this stage passes quick.
It is really hard to be a dad sometimes. You can't actually be the one that feeds him. You are the one that has to go back to work, so you only get to see your baby when he is asleep in the morning (and being snapped at to not wake him up so mom can still sleep after I leave) and in the evening after spending close to 10hrs away. So that means that he is nice and tired and easily fussy when you get home. Since he spends the majority of time with mom, you don't have a strong connection with him so when he wants to relax, it is rarely with you.
This has been my past month. What a blast...I love this part. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade the little mini-me for anything in the world, but I really can't wait to get past this stage.
Tonight is a perfect example of what we are going through right now. Jessica is doing a Xfit class from 7:30pm to 8:30pm 3 days a week. That means that I get him for about 90 mins a week where it is just me and him. Sounds great right? I get to tell him all the stories that mom doesn't want me to, we talk about going to college, what it means to be a man...all the fun dad stuff right?
WRONG
Jessica leaves usually as he starts to cry (don't blame her). It usually takes me 15-20mins to get him calmed down so that he can have his nap. Once that happens, about 20-30mins later he wakes up. I go in, put the Binky back in his mouth, make funny faces and we start talking again. This lasts about 10mins. Then the REAL crying starts. He is hungry. So I get the bottle that we have all ready to go and try to feed him. Which then turns into a 45min battle of trying to get him to eat (it has been 2-3hrs since his last meal) to get him to eat 4 oz. FOUR OUNCES. Usually (when mom is feeding him), this takes about 25mins. But when dad is doing it, it takes 45mins and he is literally screaming the entire time. Screaming like I'm waiting for the neighbors to call the cops screaming.
So the moral of the story is what dads get is about 3-4hrs before its bath and bed time. Yes, I get to spend 3-4hrs a day with my child...no wonder he barely remembers who I am. And everyone tells me that its hard for the mom to go back to work. Do they have any idea what a dad goes through? I had to go back to work after about 2 weeks, and then leave EVERY morning knowing that it will be a battle to get him to remember who I am when I get home.
WTF...I'm the dad, so its easier for me? I don't care as much? America is kind of messed up that way. I think that moms and dads should get the same time off w/o having to worry about their jobs or what is going to happen. Because I'll tell you and everyone else who thinks it's 'easier' for men, go to hell. If you care about your child, it isn't easy and people need to recognize that.
In reality, I'm pretty confident that Roran remembers me and that he isn't upset because it is me that is trying to feed him a bottle vs. Jess. But it's still hard.
But hey, it's all part of being a dad right? I hope this stage passes quick.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Pumpkin Patch 2009
Friday, September 25, 2009
Quick Seavers Family update

So Roran and Jess are back from Oly (again). I seem to be missing out on a lot. Jessica's best friend is pregnant too, but I'm really getting tired of NOT having them around for 2-3 days a week. I think after our chat that it is going to cut down a lot, so that is good.
The reason I'm saying this is because I figured out what it is like to be a parent. A couple of weeks ago, Jess went to Oly for a day or so and ended up spending the entire week down there. That was hard. I had his bouncy chair song stuck in my head the whole time and it literally, physically hurt not to have them here. OK, mostly Roran not being here (love you honey!), but seriously I was not OK with it.
I have no idea if other fathers feel this way, but that is why I have asked Jess not to go to Oly so much. That and the fact that Roran seems to 'forget' who I am after a couple of days. He gets startled so much easier when I see him after a couple days and it's really hard on me. One minute he is fine and then the next he jumps like "Who the hell are you?" and won't stop crying until Jess comes and gets him. After a couple of days back with me this seems to go away, but that doesn't do a lot for a new father who has to work and gets pretty limited time with his only child in the first place.
Anyway, have a good evening. Jess and I are off to have a glass of wine and some 'adult' fun...playing Beatles Rockband you perverts. ;-)
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