Wednesday, October 28, 2009
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Roran laughs! This is a real laugh vs. the "ha ha " he did for me a couple weeks ago. Yeah!
Sunday, October 25, 2009
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
I hope this stage passes quick
God damn it sucks when your kid doesn't like you...
It is really hard to be a dad sometimes. You can't actually be the one that feeds him. You are the one that has to go back to work, so you only get to see your baby when he is asleep in the morning (and being snapped at to not wake him up so mom can still sleep after I leave) and in the evening after spending close to 10hrs away. So that means that he is nice and tired and easily fussy when you get home. Since he spends the majority of time with mom, you don't have a strong connection with him so when he wants to relax, it is rarely with you.
This has been my past month. What a blast...I love this part. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade the little mini-me for anything in the world, but I really can't wait to get past this stage.
Tonight is a perfect example of what we are going through right now. Jessica is doing a Xfit class from 7:30pm to 8:30pm 3 days a week. That means that I get him for about 90 mins a week where it is just me and him. Sounds great right? I get to tell him all the stories that mom doesn't want me to, we talk about going to college, what it means to be a man...all the fun dad stuff right?
WRONG
Jessica leaves usually as he starts to cry (don't blame her). It usually takes me 15-20mins to get him calmed down so that he can have his nap. Once that happens, about 20-30mins later he wakes up. I go in, put the Binky back in his mouth, make funny faces and we start talking again. This lasts about 10mins. Then the REAL crying starts. He is hungry. So I get the bottle that we have all ready to go and try to feed him. Which then turns into a 45min battle of trying to get him to eat (it has been 2-3hrs since his last meal) to get him to eat 4 oz. FOUR OUNCES. Usually (when mom is feeding him), this takes about 25mins. But when dad is doing it, it takes 45mins and he is literally screaming the entire time. Screaming like I'm waiting for the neighbors to call the cops screaming.
So the moral of the story is what dads get is about 3-4hrs before its bath and bed time. Yes, I get to spend 3-4hrs a day with my child...no wonder he barely remembers who I am. And everyone tells me that its hard for the mom to go back to work. Do they have any idea what a dad goes through? I had to go back to work after about 2 weeks, and then leave EVERY morning knowing that it will be a battle to get him to remember who I am when I get home.
WTF...I'm the dad, so its easier for me? I don't care as much? America is kind of messed up that way. I think that moms and dads should get the same time off w/o having to worry about their jobs or what is going to happen. Because I'll tell you and everyone else who thinks it's 'easier' for men, go to hell. If you care about your child, it isn't easy and people need to recognize that.
In reality, I'm pretty confident that Roran remembers me and that he isn't upset because it is me that is trying to feed him a bottle vs. Jess. But it's still hard.
But hey, it's all part of being a dad right? I hope this stage passes quick.
It is really hard to be a dad sometimes. You can't actually be the one that feeds him. You are the one that has to go back to work, so you only get to see your baby when he is asleep in the morning (and being snapped at to not wake him up so mom can still sleep after I leave) and in the evening after spending close to 10hrs away. So that means that he is nice and tired and easily fussy when you get home. Since he spends the majority of time with mom, you don't have a strong connection with him so when he wants to relax, it is rarely with you.
This has been my past month. What a blast...I love this part. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade the little mini-me for anything in the world, but I really can't wait to get past this stage.
Tonight is a perfect example of what we are going through right now. Jessica is doing a Xfit class from 7:30pm to 8:30pm 3 days a week. That means that I get him for about 90 mins a week where it is just me and him. Sounds great right? I get to tell him all the stories that mom doesn't want me to, we talk about going to college, what it means to be a man...all the fun dad stuff right?
WRONG
Jessica leaves usually as he starts to cry (don't blame her). It usually takes me 15-20mins to get him calmed down so that he can have his nap. Once that happens, about 20-30mins later he wakes up. I go in, put the Binky back in his mouth, make funny faces and we start talking again. This lasts about 10mins. Then the REAL crying starts. He is hungry. So I get the bottle that we have all ready to go and try to feed him. Which then turns into a 45min battle of trying to get him to eat (it has been 2-3hrs since his last meal) to get him to eat 4 oz. FOUR OUNCES. Usually (when mom is feeding him), this takes about 25mins. But when dad is doing it, it takes 45mins and he is literally screaming the entire time. Screaming like I'm waiting for the neighbors to call the cops screaming.
So the moral of the story is what dads get is about 3-4hrs before its bath and bed time. Yes, I get to spend 3-4hrs a day with my child...no wonder he barely remembers who I am. And everyone tells me that its hard for the mom to go back to work. Do they have any idea what a dad goes through? I had to go back to work after about 2 weeks, and then leave EVERY morning knowing that it will be a battle to get him to remember who I am when I get home.
WTF...I'm the dad, so its easier for me? I don't care as much? America is kind of messed up that way. I think that moms and dads should get the same time off w/o having to worry about their jobs or what is going to happen. Because I'll tell you and everyone else who thinks it's 'easier' for men, go to hell. If you care about your child, it isn't easy and people need to recognize that.
In reality, I'm pretty confident that Roran remembers me and that he isn't upset because it is me that is trying to feed him a bottle vs. Jess. But it's still hard.
But hey, it's all part of being a dad right? I hope this stage passes quick.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Pumpkin Patch 2009
The Pumpkin Patch was so much fun. My mom's birthday was Monday so we celebrated on Sunday and decided what would be a better way to celebrate than taking the babies to the patch and posing them with pumpkins! It was a lot of fun. Of course we had to torture them a little bit as well. Riley was asleep in the snuggly and Rachel pulled her out, took off her coat and set her next to Roran. Watch the slide show to see the sequence of events that will have you rolling in your chair. You will know the photos when you get to them. It starts with Riley sleeping next to Roran and she slowly wakes and then starts screaming, its hysterical. Yes, I know we are warped and twisted to think that this screaming is so funny, but wait till you see the pictures!! Enjoy...
The Pumpkin Patch was so much fun. My mom's birthday was Monday so we celebrated on Sunday and decided what would be a better way to celebrate than taking the babies to the patch and posing them with pumpkins! It was a lot of fun. Of course we had to torture them a little bit as well. Riley was asleep in the snuggly and Rachel pulled her out, took off her coat and set her next to Roran. Watch the slide show to see the sequence of events that will have you rolling in your chair. You will know the photos when you get to them. It starts with Riley sleeping next to Roran and she slowly wakes and then starts screaming, its hysterical. Yes, I know we are warped and twisted to think that this screaming is so funny, but wait till you see the pictures!! Enjoy... 
Friday, September 25, 2009
Quick Seavers Family update
So Roran and Jess are back from Oly (again). I seem to be missing out on a lot. Jessica's best friend is pregnant too, but I'm really getting tired of NOT having them around for 2-3 days a week. I think after our chat that it is going to cut down a lot, so that is good.
The reason I'm saying this is because I figured out what it is like to be a parent. A couple of weeks ago, Jess went to Oly for a day or so and ended up spending the entire week down there. That was hard. I had his bouncy chair song stuck in my head the whole time and it literally, physically hurt not to have them here. OK, mostly Roran not being here (love you honey!), but seriously I was not OK with it.
I have no idea if other fathers feel this way, but that is why I have asked Jess not to go to Oly so much. That and the fact that Roran seems to 'forget' who I am after a couple of days. He gets startled so much easier when I see him after a couple days and it's really hard on me. One minute he is fine and then the next he jumps like "Who the hell are you?" and won't stop crying until Jess comes and gets him. After a couple of days back with me this seems to go away, but that doesn't do a lot for a new father who has to work and gets pretty limited time with his only child in the first place.
Anyway, have a good evening. Jess and I are off to have a glass of wine and some 'adult' fun...playing Beatles Rockband you perverts. ;-)
Monday, September 21, 2009
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Monday, August 24, 2009
Family is great
OK, so it has been a while since I wrote last. I'm still trying to get used to the new work, get home, hang out with Roran and Jess schedule. There is eating, cleaning and paying attention to Loki and Meow Zoom that needs to fit in there as well.
So this is going to be a short message about how friggin' awesome our family is. I have to say that everyone is being rock stars about this. I love the fact that Roran has helped pull my side of the family a little bit tighter together. Jess' side was always pretty tight, but mine was more like a net...with a lot of holes. But thankfully there seems to be some tightening of that with Roran. Which is really good because both Jess and I want a lot of family contact for Roran. There is so much history within that network. So much that we couldn't remember (or want to remember) all of it and I believe that it will help enrich his life even more by having those different perspectives.
This past week, Roran got to hang with Uncle Dave, Grandma and Grandpa and will be hanging out with Great Aunt Fern this week. I have to say though, I was very surprised by David's visit. As a lot of you probably know, David and I don't exactly have the best relationship. It seems no matter how hard we try it just doesn't really get anywhere. That being said, he was awesome with Roran. It was very nice seeing him hold Roran and how relaxed and focused he was on him. It was a side of my brother that I haven't seen in a really long time.
Well this is a bit late, Great Aunt Fern was here and it was great having her. She had a lot of fun with Roran as well. At least in between feedings and diaper changes etc. Fern did have to leave a bit earlier than we had originally planned, but this was offset by her being able to arrive a day earlier. =) So all in all it worked out great.
Now we just have to get Roran to meet the rest of the clan and then we can work on trying to have a big family reunion to keep everyone in touch. If you are reading this, LMK what you think of that idea. It could be fun. ;-)
Thanks everyone and we'll chat soon!
So this is going to be a short message about how friggin' awesome our family is. I have to say that everyone is being rock stars about this. I love the fact that Roran has helped pull my side of the family a little bit tighter together. Jess' side was always pretty tight, but mine was more like a net...with a lot of holes. But thankfully there seems to be some tightening of that with Roran. Which is really good because both Jess and I want a lot of family contact for Roran. There is so much history within that network. So much that we couldn't remember (or want to remember) all of it and I believe that it will help enrich his life even more by having those different perspectives.
This past week, Roran got to hang with Uncle Dave, Grandma and Grandpa and will be hanging out with Great Aunt Fern this week. I have to say though, I was very surprised by David's visit. As a lot of you probably know, David and I don't exactly have the best relationship. It seems no matter how hard we try it just doesn't really get anywhere. That being said, he was awesome with Roran. It was very nice seeing him hold Roran and how relaxed and focused he was on him. It was a side of my brother that I haven't seen in a really long time.
Well this is a bit late, Great Aunt Fern was here and it was great having her. She had a lot of fun with Roran as well. At least in between feedings and diaper changes etc. Fern did have to leave a bit earlier than we had originally planned, but this was offset by her being able to arrive a day earlier. =) So all in all it worked out great.
Now we just have to get Roran to meet the rest of the clan and then we can work on trying to have a big family reunion to keep everyone in touch. If you are reading this, LMK what you think of that idea. It could be fun. ;-)
Thanks everyone and we'll chat soon!
Monday, August 10, 2009
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Cute things of Roran
So I had to go back to hell on Monday (that would be work in laymen's terms). It really sucks. Not only am I not that much of a fan of what I'm doing right now, it is keeping me away from Roran and Jessica. I'm worried about how much I'm going to miss of him growing and changing. Not that we can do anything about it. In a perfect world I would be able to take time off w/o having to worry about how we were going to pay our mortgage, bills and buy food for everyone, but as we are all aware of (I'm sure), we don't live in a perfect world.
Anyway, on to what I had intended to write about: Roran. Today he did the cutest thing. I finally got home and was able to hold him in between feedings. He was out like a light, which is no small feat considering that he was no where near calm when Jessica gave him to me. But Jessica needed to be able to relax a bit and I needed to hold him.
On to the point. While I was holding him, he did the cutest yawn, stretch, eye rub, stretch, yawn back to sleep you could ever have seen. I wish I had my camera so that I could post it here. But I'm sure that there will other times that I can capture.
On another happy note, my aunt Fern, Roran's great aunt, will be coming to visit for a few days the end of August. We are using the guise of her babysitting while Jessica and I have a long awaited date night (we'll be seeing Diana Krall at the Chateaus St. Michelle). It will be her first time actually seeing him in person and one of our first outings with just each other. It should be a great night all around.
Now if we could just figure out how to get more milk stored up so I can help feed him and we can have our 'alone' time, we would be good. =)
And if we could get the cats to get more used to him...
Until next time, have a good night!
Anyway, on to what I had intended to write about: Roran. Today he did the cutest thing. I finally got home and was able to hold him in between feedings. He was out like a light, which is no small feat considering that he was no where near calm when Jessica gave him to me. But Jessica needed to be able to relax a bit and I needed to hold him.
On to the point. While I was holding him, he did the cutest yawn, stretch, eye rub, stretch, yawn back to sleep you could ever have seen. I wish I had my camera so that I could post it here. But I'm sure that there will other times that I can capture.
On another happy note, my aunt Fern, Roran's great aunt, will be coming to visit for a few days the end of August. We are using the guise of her babysitting while Jessica and I have a long awaited date night (we'll be seeing Diana Krall at the Chateaus St. Michelle). It will be her first time actually seeing him in person and one of our first outings with just each other. It should be a great night all around.
Now if we could just figure out how to get more milk stored up so I can help feed him and we can have our 'alone' time, we would be good. =)
And if we could get the cats to get more used to him...
Until next time, have a good night!
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
I can help with the midnight feedings!!!!
Roran took his first bottle yesterday! He actually took right to it and later when Jessica went to feed him had no confusion at all. He is actually doing both now and seems to be doing great with it!
Other than that, Time Warps are still happening. I'm not sure how, but they are. They do seem to be getting shorter though, so that is a good thing. Yesterday we were trying to get to Olympia by noon and didn't end up leaving until 11:30...needless to say we didn't make it by noon.
But it was great seeing family. I'm really hoping that Roran will be able to see more of both sides of our families than what I did. A lot of that was my fault so I'm trying really hard to not make the same mistakes with him that I did for myself. Family is very important to both Jessica and I and we both want family to be a significant part of Roran's life.
On the flip side for me, it is really the only way for him to connect with my mom. I can tell him all the things that I remember about her, but there is an entire family out there that has other memories of her that will help make it more 'real' for him. It will never be as good as the real thing, but that is what I have to work with.
Anyway, here is a picture of me giving Roran his first bottle. Enjoy and have a good day!
Saturday, July 25, 2009
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